To begin fixing a broken relationship, both of you need to address each other with respect and honesty so that the inner connection may begin healing.
Essentially, when either of you lose interest in the other, usually it’s a sign the relationship is going through phases of breaking down.
Certainly we’re all human and often operate from a thought system called the ego-based mind that is only aware of the body and the material world; for that reason, we all make mistakes.
We likewise do things with the best of intentions, just to see them not work out the way we had initially prepared.
Sadly, fixing a broken relationship or struggling at how to rebuild a relationship, is typically among those things.
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We say our vows with conviction and cannot wait to live a delighted life together.
Then truth hits. We begin discovering that being in a wonderful relationship takes work.
If this sounds familiar to you, and you feel your relationship might be better, then continue reading.
Don’t get discouraged.
When you think how to save my relationship:
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The very fact that you acknowledge that there is a problem is an excellent indication. It means you’re taking note and understand exactly what’s going on.
It means you realize the “holy relationship,” as the Course in Miracles terms, is within you—being of you, and that you are both capable of bringing it forth together.
After all, you cannot start fixing a broken relationship if you are not aware it is broken.
Take heart and start working towards learning how to rebuild a relationship, making yours a holy one at that.
The Course in Miracles states, “The holy relationship is a phenomenal teaching accomplishment. In all its aspects, as it begins, develops and becomes accomplished, it represents the reversal of the unholy relationship.”
If you and your partner are excellent at interacting with one another, then you may be able to patch things up on your own.
Maybe there was a time when you could talk to each other, but you have actually since started drifting apart and have lost trust in one another.
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Make certain to keep your emotions in check. As quickly as you spot your discussions getting too heated, make a note of it and take a break to cool down.
You need to stop immediately, otherwise you may end up in a complete blown argument and state things you will regret later on.
Speaking of saying things you’ll be sorry for later is one of the things to let go of when fixing a broken relationship.
Being concerned about how to rebuild a relationship:
Remember to deal with each other with respect as you’re working things out. You both may not like some of things the other one is doing, however you don’t need to make it personal.
The key to fixing a broken relationship and making this work is to take it slowly, discuss the habits (not the person), and how it makes you feel.
You may be shocked at simply how efficient this technique can be. The reason it works is that it avoids each of you from getting overly protective.
If, in spite of your finest efforts, you find that you’re not making any progress, then it’s time to take the next step.
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Don’t worry, more couples than you’d ever believe have actually had counseling for fixing a broken relationship at one point or another.
It’s not a reflection on your weak points, however rather proof that you still care enough about your relationship and to save your marriage to try to heal it.
The Course in Miracles further teaches that, “This is the first result of offering the relationship to the Holy Spirit, to use for His purposes.”
Your inner divine Guide—the Holy Spirit, always has healing as His goal, so whether you opt to try to repair things yourself or seek relationship counseling, what counts is that you are doing something.
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This means healing has already started, so stick with it, be willing to do whatever it takes, and you will have your love relationship back in shape in no time.
In conclusion, we all have that fearful and doubtful ego-based mind aspect in us that only can think from the material and never from within to the core.
Again, I must add in this article like I do in many others, this is why I urge you to learn mindfulness training, and more on that here.
We likewise do things with the finest of intents, just to see them not work out the way we had originally planned.
Sadly, fixing a broken relationship and worrying over how to save my relationship is typically one of those things.
If you and your partner are great at communicating with one another, then see it as a holy relationship and shift forward in mind from within yourself to patching things up.
Remember to keep in mind to treat each other with respect as you’re working things out. You both might not like some of things the other one is doing, however you don’t need to make it personal.
Simply act from within your heart, and your love for each other will grow.
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To relationship healing,
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