For many people false happiness is their way of life. How often do we give that false smile when someone asks us how things are going, and fake being happy?
The real inner You does not know of an artificial smile, but that’s okay.
As humans we go through this type of wrong-minded ego-based way of telling ourselves that we are happy, when in all truth we are not.
How often as humans do we fake being happy?
And, how often do we offer a genuine real smile?
The child goes towards the flower that the butterfly is resting on, with arms out stretched, just to discover as he just gets in reach, the butterfly moves to another flower.
Undeterred the child follows the butterfly to the next flower, and then the next, however the butterfly constantly remains just out of reach.
As grownups, finding happiness can appear just like that butterfly, always simply out of reach, perhaps a fake happy face.
Even if we achieve one of our, “If only,” desires, the happiness we seek is still simply out of our reach.
If this becomes our focus, we discover that discontentment and misery progressively keep growing in our life and experience.
The Course in Miracles reminds us in its many lessons, “Do not be afraid to look within.”
To discover real inner happiness in life we have to often be at peace with ourselves internally.
(Here’s why being real and authentic is a genuine habit of successful people for finding happiness.)
To rely on the ego-based mind’s definition of life’s experiences for our source of joy, would suggest living life in a consistent emotional roller roller coaster ride while being untrue to who and what we truly are.
But for some they say as a, “cop out,” that “this is how life is.”
That’s why we often offer false happiness when someone asks us things about our personal life.
Happiness comes from within.
The inner contentment that survives the roller coaster trip of life has its roots deep within our being.
The Course in Miracles asks us through a principle and lesson, “Do you think the world needs peace as much as you do?”
The source of passion, purpose and, real joy originates from embracing and finding who we are as a person, and living a life of purpose and passion.
We need to discover peace in every element of our life- the physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual.
To find approval, purpose and peace in all of these locations will provide a sense of completion in life.
We experience a sense of emptiness and feel something is missing out on if we neglect any one of these areas.
There is not a solid structure for developing happiness within, but we then, generally start to try to fill this incompleteness by searching for outside solutions.
That is the point when we can fall into the ‘elusive butterfly’ syndrome, and experience such disappointment.
Is happiness a fake mysterious butterfly for you?
Is it false happiness?
The more you find, embrace and accept your uniqueness and function as your life of purpose, the more you will experience the butterfly of inner happiness alighting on your shoulder.
For many individuals joy is an evasive butterfly in the garden of life. As grownups, happiness can appear just like that butterfly, constantly just out of reach.
To rely on life’s experiences for our source of joy would mean living life in a continuous psychological lows and highs of the emotional roller coaster ride.
Is happiness and a smile an elusive butterfly for you?
The more you discover, accept, and again accept your individuality and function, the more you will experience the butterfly of happiness alighting on your shoulder.
(I believe this related article will help, and it’s about building self-esteem and with self-confidence tips for a better life.)
To your real smile,
James Nussbaumer
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