In my webinars for change and transformation no matter what my followers have messaged and visited me about, there has always been a problem about good relationship advice.
Here are 7 of the most typical misconceptions my followers have actually related to me about good relationship advice and having a better relationship.
These misconceptions are ego-based perceptions followed by my perspective on every one of them.
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Ego-based, meaning not from one’s core, but from a material sense of who we are, the body, which is the shaky and sandy foundation of the special relationship, as the Course in Miracles terms.
Understanding these ego-based myths can help you shift forward in mind rather to the holy relationship, as the Course in Miracles calls, from the inner rock of who you are and what you are about.
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- Ego-Based Perceptions for Good Relationship Advice #1: I need to like whatever about my partner.
Truth Check 1
You were born pristine and pure. You then found out behaviors from your moms and dads, instructor, coaches, church etc. (who did their best to teach you about a better relationship).
These habits have become the backbone for your way of living and having a much better relationship.
Perhaps a common behavior that irritates having a much better relationship would be leaving the toilet seat up after use.
This is merely a behavior and not the essence of the person.
However, when you might consider this behavior to be the person, this damages the principle of a better relationship, developing all type of conflict in your requirement for a better relationship.
- Ego-Based Perceptions #2: Love implies that I can repair my partner.
Reality Check 2
Due to the fact that of some special quality or characteristic that you appreciated, you satisfied your partner. You have to accept and permit that quality to flourish in order to permit you and your partner to turn into a better relationship.
You might be unaware that you do not even like yourself.
By allowing your partner to grow and expand, you will experience the quality of your partner and the appeal within you, as you start to take pleasure in a much better relationship.
- Ego-Based Perceptions #3: I am supposed to give up the important things I like in order to be in a much better relationship.
True to your heart Check 3
Quitting the things you like to be in a better relationship, is like taking a knife and cutting away a part of yourself.
Your better relationship is based upon the individuality of you and your partner. And if you’re struggling over building a better life this article may help.
When you quit your individuality you rob yourself of a much better relationship, your enthusiasm and your partner of your creativity.
- Ego-Based Perceptions for Good Relationship Advice #4: I will be saved by a knight in shining armor.
Truth Check 4
You may have been conditioned to live your life anticipating somebody to look after you. Exactly what takes place if that person becomes ill? and is not able to look after you.
Your obligation in creating a much better relationship, is to bring your enthusiasm to the table of your relationship. Some days you will be the knight in shining armor and another day your partner will be the knight in shining armor of a much better relationship.
You will each get a possibility to shine like star in a much better relationship since of your strengths and weaknesses.
- Ego-Based Perceptions #5: It costs a lot to be in a relationship.
Inner Core Check 5
In a material context, a much better relationship can be expensive if you think that love is based upon the bigger automobile, house or boat.
Some of these material possessions are essential, they ought to not be at the expenditure of producing a much better relationship.
Remember, real love is about your inner essence which is where your real confidence sits, and more on that here in a sister article.
Love is developing a much better relationship by constructing a relationship that is based upon the basic things in life, like strolling and holding hands, going on a picnic (simply the two of you), or sharing an ice cream.
Love in a better relationship is not about exactly what you reveal on the outdoors however what you express in your heart. Love is not about money or materialism, love simply is.
- Ego-Based Perceptions #6: Love in a relationship is or is not a sensation.
Reality Check 6
It is not exactly what you state, it is exactly what you do. You can say, “I love you” which might be simply words and no feelings (action). Love is the action of doing.
If you make a cup of tea for yourself, (the water is boiled), make a cup of tea for your partner.
Whether your partner wants the tea or not is unimportant, it is the thought that counts and the action that seals a much better relationship.
- Ego-Based Perceptions for Good Relationship Advice #7: I do not need to operate at my relationship.
Holy Relationship Check 7
As a kid, you learned to creep prior to you walked. Then you discovered the letters of the alphabet. In order to write, you had to learn the best ways to put those letters together to make words and sentences.
These sentences then end up being the way in which you communicated.
When you and your partner stop communicating after learning the best ways to use the letters of the alphabet in sentences, it’s like 2 tape recorders talking to each other – Nobody is at home to enjoy a better relationship.
- Your partner’s habits in a much better relationship is not your partner’s true essence.
- There is no need to have a clone of yourself. A much better relationship needs some variety.
- Giving up of your uniqueness to be in a much better relationship resembles throwing out the baby with the bath water.
- In a much better relationship there are no superior partners, simply equivalent partners.
- Love in creating a better relationship is not about loan and the material properties (although there are important) but the simple things in life.
- Love in a much better relationship is active not passive.
- Absence of communication crushes your desire for a much better relationship.
Remember, you then discovered habits from your parents, instructor, coaches, church etc. (who did their finest, no doubt, to teach you about a better relationship through the body, or, ego).
These behaviors often become the foundation for our way of living and having healing relationships.
The Course in Miracles states, “This is why you see in both what is not there, and make both slaves of vengeance.”
Perhaps of the common habits that aggravates having good relationship advice and healing would be leaving the toilet seat up after use (har, har!).
When you may consider this habit to be the person, the body, this destroys the idea of good relationship advice, thus creating all kinds of dispute in your, wanting, for a holy relationship.
Here’s more on relationship advice for couples and tips to help heal the heart, and opening to the holy relationship.
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