Leaving a relationship for good has got to be the toughest part of any relationship. You wish to never reach this end, but you’re seeing everywhere signs to end a relationship.
Frequently the obstacle of leaving a relationship for good with dignity and the pain of rejection and dealing with guilt that comes with the territory can be unnerving.
If you make a person appear to feel rejected that can be a heard issue as well. The impacts of pain of rejection and the guilt you may feel must be dealt with.
Keep in mind that the Course in Miracles states, “The guiltless and the guilty are totally incapable of understanding one another.”
It’s typically challenging to prevent thinking that if somebody no longer desires to be with them, then there needs to be something wrong with them when somebody is leaving a relationship for good.
They see the split as an unfavorable reflection of their worth as a person.
Guilt of Leaving your Partner
On the other hand, it is a truth that there are few individuals with whom we would feel that deep connection.
(Here’s more on when a woman sees signs he’s not in love in anymore and healing the broken relationship.)
We do not feel linked to most people, so there’s no need to believe that just because somebody no longer feels anymore connection in the relationship, then there’s something wrong with one (or both) of them.
Everybody has met perfectly fantastic individuals yet simply don’t feel the connection, and that is just how it is.
No reason at all to feel pain of rejection or feel guilty about anything.
It’s a time for accepting the learning experience and being happy about the lesson, while moving on in life.
The Course in Miracles teaches, “The happy learner cannot feel guilty about learning.”
Signs to End a Relationship
(Here’s more about when you’re noticing signs she’s seeing someone else and when it’s time to let go of the relationship.)
Leaving a relationship for good does not suggest judging an individual’s adequacy.
In the first place, you began with the relationship with the guarantee that you would respect and care for each other no matter who they are.
Therefore, when leaving a relationship for good because you’re seeing the signs everywhere, this special bond doesn’t necessarily go away.
If it is considered that it’s much better to end the relationship, say, because the signs to leave a marriage are showing, most of the time, the reason is that the relationship is simply not prepared or in shape to continue into the next level.
Still sometimes, when a person leaves his/her partner, most often it’s actually not since his partner is inadequate, rather the individual who suddenly decided to let go of the relationship is the one having a problem of staying in any relationship–the ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ issue.
In my opinion this is the very first thing to contemplate or hash out in your own mind, when opting to leave a relationship for good.
Pain of Rejection
However, it might be better leaving a relationship than waiting, and waiting still, wishing to give time to feel the connection which you understand would most likely will not come.
Whether the individual you left felt the pain of rejection after the separation, you can’t state you’re responsible for how he/she feels.
In this case it would be much better if he/she believes that the break up or separation wasn’t a judgment of his worth.
It perhaps, is just the way it is, they’re simply ‘not meant to be’, that it simply might actually be for his own betterment
Try to keep in mind that leaving a relationship for good means speaking and accepting the truth, dealing with guilt and pain of rejection.
There should be no judgment or condemnation and the burdening obligation for the other individual’s feelings.
In the end you both might still smile looking forward to searching for your best match yet to arrive into your life.
(Here’s more on letting go of a bad relationship even with the one you love.)
To a happy life,
James Nussbaumer
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