Marriage Trouble – How to Begin Relationship Healing

Are you having marriage trouble, perhaps saying that your wife or husband cheated on me, or you are seeing signs your marriage is failing?  Do you have a feeling that the loveless marriage has potential for reestablishing love and trust? Are you screaming inside with thoughts of help my marriage?

There is some great potential for relationship healing, because you are asking for it. That alone is a giant step toward rebuilding your now, what only seems to be, loveless marriage.

(By the way, when you’re finished here, this related article may help if you are in a relationship but lonely or feeling alone in a marriage.)

Contemplate what the Course in Miracles states, “Look at the picture. Do not let the frame distract you.”

Let me share some dialogue from a recent help my marriage case scenario:

Help My Marriage

With our marriage in trouble, we have turned down the turkey dinners, bar-b-ques and gatherings. I guess I will just try to make it through.”

Many others told me pretty much the same thing. Some were going to do some things–for the sake of the kids.

A crisis does that.

(Also this related brief article gives the truth about what men want and is great relationship advice for women.) 

It ends up spreading and taking over more and more of life. A crisis does the same. And if you’re not already, is why I urge you to seek out mindfulness meditation techniques. 

I was chatting with a friend yesterday with a marriage in trouble. I asked, “Have plans for the holiday weekend?” (It was Thanksgiving in the U.S.A., a day to celebrate the first colonials, and kicks off the Christmas season).

1) Life enjoyment.

2) Efforts to improve.

Let’s do that this weekend, okay? Don’t let the crisis force you into hibernation. Decide to get out and do something.

While it may not seem like it, the choice for healing is in your hands.

The Course in Miracles further states, “For here is only healing, already complete and perfect.”

I just started a new online course this morning. And the weekend is a bit slow, so time for me to dig in.

Let’s talk about that first one–Life Enjoyment.

Many times, in the middle of a crisis, marriage in trouble or otherwise, there is a tendency to become uni-dimensional. And the crisis spreads to the space allowed–all of life.

The weekend is probably a little more quiet and still. Things are just a little slower. You can either join in the slow motion, or decide to dig in and do a little self-improvement.

You can get started RIGHT NOW with improving your relationship.

By the way here’s a related article on how to heal the broken relationship in 2 brave yet easy action taking steps.

Second, you (and your life) is bigger than any one facet, any crisis in life.

Your crisis and seeing signs your marriage is failing is one part of your life.

The long weekend will pass. Will your relationship be better at the end of it?

If you want a little recommendation, let me make a suggestion for the improvement part: work on your marriage. Work on yourself and work on the relationship struggles.

I’m pulling for you!

So, that holiday weekend has the potential of dragging you down–or of being a turning point in how you approach your seeming loveless marriage crisis.

Right now, make a mental choice: what will you do for some enjoyment this weekend? What will you do for a little improvement this weekend?

Wherever you are, whatever has happened, today starts a new journey. Every day is a new opportunity for a new journey.

A new process for relationship healing!

Where will you spend your time working on a little self-improvement this weekend? And with a slower weekend, it is a fine time to do it.


Remember, many couples who are desperately in a marriage trouble crisis make the errors that wind up going deeper into a loveless marriage instead of wonderful relationship healing.

(Please note, I also suggest this related article on being successful in life and the 3 tools to help you.)

To relationship healing, and lots of love,

James Nussbaumer

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