Grieving the Loss of a Loved One and Dealing with Bereavement

Grieving the loss of a loved one certainly does take a period of time, but psychological studies are informing that this can be an opportunity for a new beginning toward your life purpose.

The despair and sadness when grieving the loss of a loved one will hang around for a while, but its hold on us will fade away in time.  

In previous articles I told you the story of Nakita, a young woman from Croatia who began writing letters to me while I was incarcerated in an Ohio prison.

I mentioned her grieving the loss of a loved one, her husband Armand being murdered, and was greeted with A Course in Miracles shortly after.  

At this point I was still held in suspense as to how she’d gotten my address, and why she decided to look up my case on an internet site.

Everyone involved with the principles and lessons of A Course in Miracles has their own unique story, though not all as dramatic as hers. But as with me, it always seems that ACIM finds you rather than running out and finding it on your own.  

Dealing with bereavement

It seems an American man, a notable guitar player who was touring and performing in the area, stayed there for a while with mutual friends. 

This folk singer had a copy of A Course in Miracles with him, and when informed of Nakita’s tragic loss, he offered to review it with her over the next week.

Nakita said that once she began reading the text, she found its extremely deep content difficult to grasp, like a “foreign language,” she commented. 

Regardless of her lack of comprehension of this abstract material, however, she did feel something stirring within her.  She said it was an urging to continue that struck a chord as she absorbed its words. 

She knew she had to get her own personal copy of this publication, and of course she did.

Bringing joy to others

Her sadness, depression, and despair over grieving the loss of a loved one, the thoughts of Armand’s death the way it all happened, began to fade as she realized that he had not totally left her at all. 

But Nakita mentioned that it was easier for her to now understand how and why the presence he had in her life to begin with was simply part of his destiny, as well as her own.

With this understanding she also became aware that there is so much we don’t understand of the “why” we must at times experience things that seem like a loss.  

Of course she terribly missed his physical presence and the life they shared together. 

But she also knows in her own heart to give her positive-mindedness or attitude a chance to continue her journey.

Nakita knows her true free will, or life purpose, a “true calling” as she says, is now working wonders with the beautiful land she still lives on.  All I could gather from her letters at this point was that she is using her land for the purpose of bringing joy to others.

We ourselves, just like Nakita, can only limit our creative power with ego interference. 

Life purpose

But God’s Will is for us to allow peace to wave itself over interferences like grieving the loss of a loved one, and then we will realize the power of His Will, which is our free will, to be unlimited. 

God doesn’t deprive Himself, nor does He want us to deprive or sacrifice ourselves of the gifts we have within us, even while we dream of separation. 

Who truly wants to have a bad dream?

Many of us remain confused over selfishness versus self-fullness while we’re grieving the loss of a loved one. 

Selfishness, of course, is all about the ego and the limiting beliefs of being only a body.  But self-fullness is all about our unlimited and full potential as being the spirit of God, which we are.

A Course in Miracles states, “Fear not that you will be abruptly lifted up and hurled into reality. Time is kind, and if you use it on behalf of reality, it will keep gentle pace with you in your transition.”

This perception of our full potential, in time, leads to knowledge of our unlimited abundance, whereas beliefs eventually die.

To your unlimited abundance,

James Nussbaumer

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