When Love is Lost while Living an Unfulfilling Marriage and What to Do

Certainly ending a relationship is not something to be taken lightly when love is lost it seems, and it has become an unfulfilling marriage.

If the love you have for one another has faded decide if you truly desire to begin dealing with a breakup, or to save your relationship.

As long as there is still a glimmer of love within you both, that leads to healing and perhaps avoid divorce.

If your relationship is going through a rough patch take a breather and look inward.

I mean, if it is one of numerous rough spots that with time can be paved and the love comes forth.

Try to not to focus too much and be worried about heading for divorce.

When love is lost becomes the feeling divorce may or may not be the thing to do.

It will depend on the couple and the circumstance if saving your relationship is truly possible.

But there are many times that you can pursue healing your relationship prior to it reaches the point for divorce.

One error many people make is that they start making promises.

Even if you believe you are genuine then be serious that you can make some attitude and behavior changes.

But if you do not commit to healing then any declarations will not save your relationship.

You do need to go over the issues with your partner. Since you can’t simply alter who you are to make them more than satisfied, discuss the matter.

(If you are wanting to move forward in general with your life, let’s look at this article about beliefs for change your mind to change your life.) 

When love is lost it seems but you both have a willingness to improve the relationship, that’s a spark.

Telling your partner that you love or admire him/her continuously is not a great idea either.

That’s, because even if it is true and you do honor him, stating it constantly won’t repair any issues.

Telling him that you like him can be seen as a bit of emotional blackmail. I’m saying, when all else fails to say ‘I love you’ – it doesn’t rather work like that.

Rather, it’s the holiness within each of you that must be and connect as whole-minded.

Yes, that is the miracle remedy for a failing marital relationship.

The Course in Miracles states this spiritual metaphysical principle:

  • “The holy relationship is a phenomenal teaching accomplishment. In all its aspects, as it begins, develops and becomes accomplished, it represents the reversal of the unholy relationship.”

When love is lost and when a relationship is in difficulty it can be difficult mindfully.

Sure, you may find yourself a psychological wreck and seem to think that to prevent divorce is impossible.

The fact is that an unfulfilling marriage will just drain you both more emotionally.

This is another factor why you shouldn’t keep telling him that you love him.

Telling him that he is sexy or that you love him is something you must save for later. Yes, when you have your relationship back on track and healing is strong.

Another big mistake when a relationship is in difficulty is to constantly argue. All it does is add more stress to the relationship, and no one wins these arguments.

  • Do not start any arguments with your partner and if he begins one then quietly remove from the room.
  • If he would like to go over matters, when he has actually soothed down then ask him.
  • Do not approach the marital relationship like a competitor.

You are not wanting to prove who is best at relationships. Or, who is to blame for it fading of romance and intimacy.

But do approach it like a partnership that you both need to help each other with.

Sit down with your husband/wife and calmly talk about any problems you have.

If your marriage is heading for divorce perhaps discuss how to avoid divorce.

Don’t argue with him however ask him exactly what he is feeling. Ask how he thinks you can prevent and enhance the marital relationship and avoid divorce.

To save your relationship when love is lost take his answers into factor. Of course, to consider along with your own sensations.

Then attempt to work some compromise that will make you both feel better.

If you handle the problem in a calm and fully grown mmanner you can between the two of you become happy again.

Sure, and perhaps with marriage counseling find how to avoid a divorce.

Even if you believe you are sincere, but he/she is not, it will be difficult to heal.

Likewise, that you can make positive changes, statements of demanding or pleading will only hurt chances for how to fix a failing relationship.

Can you stop a divorce after filing?

You may, but typically there are issues that both parties need to work with. Again, to rather than dealing with a breakup to enhance the relationship.

Telling him that you enjoy him or that you will do anything for him/her, is something you need to save.

Yes, dos so when communication and holiness within is found and connected. Like when you have your relationship back on track.

When a relationship is in trouble and continuously arguing is happening, forgiveness needs to take place.

When love is lost do not approach the marital relationship like a competitor to find who is best at relationships and who is to blame.

That puts the ego is in charge, based on fear and doubt, and you’ll see you both ending the relationship.

(This other related article may also help: When you’re noticing signs she’s seeing someone else and when it’s time to let go of the #relationship:) 

It may be time for leaving the relationship where healing after a breakup is your next phase.

If you simply can not reconnect and heal within your hearts the decision to part ways might be the choice.

To save your relationship is possible, as long as there is still a twinkle of love within your significant other.

Saving your relationship is actually possible.

Just keep the above ideas in mind, and you should recognize that you can’t demand that the other person stays with you.

Keeping your feelings in check. Of course, and keeping your cool are also crucial parts to this complicated formula.

Thus, you have to act now and not put off identifying the relationship issues and talking to one another about seeking professional counseling or marriage therapy.

These days there are some great marriage counseling services and marriage psychologists. Yes, who truly do care about helping you to save your relationship.

When love is lost you both must whole-mindedly that professional marriage advice will help.

Or relationship help is a path you want to accept, then that right there means you have just taken the first step on answering to: can I save my relationship?

Once you begin the path to healing determining the root cause of a possible relationship failure is the really first mile of your journey for how to fix a failing relationship.

A professional can then step in to help you go deeper to uncover and overcome the identifying issues.

Those ones present that are keeping holiness from prevailing in the love you have for one another.

A Course in Miracles also states:

  • “Set firmly in the unholy relationship, there is no course except to change the relationship to fit the goal.”

ACIM further adds here: “Until this happy solution is seen and accepted as the only way out of the conflict, the relationship may seem to be severely strained.”

Remember, if you’re confused when love is lost and it seems to be an unfulfilling marriage saving your relationship is possible.

It happens all the time where healing takes over, as long as there is still a glimmer of love within you both.

(Here’s another related article on: what to do when he’s not interested anymore?) 

To success in life and love,

James Nussbaumer

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