Coping with an Affair – Can a Marriage Survive Infidelity?

This might be the most crucial healing after an affair article you’ll read about coping with an affair. There’s lots of information available on what to do if your spouse is cheating and you recovering from infidelity.

But hardly has any actually been discussed on the important things you should not do when dealing with infidelity.

Your husband is cheating and how are you going to begin coping with an affair? A lot of women respond blindly when they discover there is infidelity in the marriage.

This short article will keep you from slipping up, that could mess up the course of action, you eventually decide to take for not only healing after an affair, but as well deciding on can a marriage survive infidelity.

The first goal directly upfront needs to be getting over the obstacles keeping you from peace. In other words, try to remain calm and collect over the issue.

It’s like what the Course in Miracles states, “The first obstacle that peace must flow across is your desire to get rid of it.”

Despite whether you decide to leave your other half or stick with him and attempt to work things out, doing the incorrect thing at the beginning of coping with an affair can make a bad circumstance worse.

(Here’s more on when a woman sees signs he’s not in love in anymore and healing the broken relationship.)  

Let’s look some healing actions and things you SHOULDN’T do and take a look at the reasons.

  • Do not rush to put him out or leave him.

Throwing him out or leaving him should be your last resort.

As long as you’re still together, you can keep your finger on the pulse of his affair and collect some much-needed realities.

Continue monitoring your partner’s activities, mindset, and the frequency of his contact with his lover, and any other details about his affair.

  • Do not openly share with your world about his infidelity.

It’s natural to want to confide in someone when coping with an affair, or rally loved ones to your side.

(Also, by the way when you’re finished here I suggest this related article on why affair relationships are not the appropriate way to end a marriage. See why it kills your heart and all the real love you are about.) 

However be really mindful and peaceful about whom you inform. Let the others you confide with see your natural peaceful side.

Again, like the Course in Miracles teaches, “Yet the peace that already lies deeply within must first expand, and flow across the obstacles…”

The female good friend you confide in could end up being the “other female.”

Make sure you’re confiding in someone you know you can trust.

Confiding in a male friend about your partner’s affair could make complications in the situation.

There are guys out there who make the most of women when they’re in a vulnerable state.

Telling your hubby’s good friends or family might not produce the outcomes you desire.

They may not take you seriously, or they may lie, make excuses for him, take his side, or warn him to cover his tracks.

Confiding in your very own family and friends can eventually come back to haunt you. Elephants aren’t the only ones who never forget.

Some people have a tendency to remember unpleasant occasions long after they’ve been dealt with.

If you and your partner choose to fix the broken marriage, they could make things challenging by harboring anger and hostility toward him for exactly what he did to you.

Or they might show resentment toward you for taking him back. Exercise caution in who you talk to when you are coping with an affair.

  • Don’t pretend it’s not happening or overlook his infidelity.

Entering into denial will only make matters worse.

As traumatic as it is to discover that your husband has been cheating, you have to face the truth of the scenario.

Neglecting his infidelity in marriage offers him the consent to continue his affair.

Pretending that it’s not taking place will make him think he’s getting away with his unfaithful actions, or give him the impression that he has your quiet approval.

Eventually you ought to inform your spouse that you are aware of his affair and make it clear that you both work at overcoming infidelity in the marriage.

The sooner you calmly confront him about his cheating, the better.

The longer you wait to bring it up and express your disapproval, the more attached he will end up being to the other female.

And the more difficult it will be to place your marriage back on track.

Remember, too, that affairs grow in secrecy.

Often, just informing your other half you know about it, will be enough to stop his affair.

  • Do not face him without the Proof and be sure to Plan your words.

The majority of specialists agree that you must face your spouse about his infidelity in the marriage.


Try to remember that many wives react blindly when coping with an affair and recovering from infidelity.

It’s natural to desire to confide in someone about your husband’s affair, or rally friends and family to your side, but just be careful and start thinking about your own healing after the affair.

(Here’s a helpful related article on how to begin fixing a broken relationship with love advice for inner healing.)  

To recovering from infidelity,

James Nussbaumer

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