Some individuals are in a relationship but lonely, and usually it is because they entered into a relationship for the sake of not being alone. This can be a sad mistake. Entering a relationship with somebody just for the sake of not being alone is not extremely wise.
Here are some ideas on how to handle being in a relationship but lonely.
Getting into a relationship with someone for the sake of not being alone in life can trigger issues down the road.
Let’s say that you decide to get involved with someone and you get married.
It is not enjoyable being alone but being with somebody that you can barely tolerate is not the response.
It can be very hard to get out of the relationship if things turn south once you get married and have kids.
Make the smart choices now so you don’t get to the point where you’re in a relationship but lonely, and do not let solitude become an issue in your relationships.
If you’re Feeling Alone in a Marriage
What to do when you are lonely can be answered by spending some time with animals that may help begin overcoming loneliness and depression.
Get a family pet or volunteer at your local animal shelter, and a great pet can help you search deeper for what you want in life.
Strolling or petting the animals can be very reliable in managing isolation when feeling alone in a marriage.
Animals are a great source for friendship to shed light on any darkness you are going through, especially while you might be in counselling.
Another great way bringing light to your life is yoga for healing, and there are other yoga techniques such as yoga for weight-loss, and a review article on yoga here…
The Course in Miracles states, “What do you want? Light or darkness, knowledge or ignorance are yours, but not both.”
Feeling Sad and Lonely in a Relationship
(Here’s a related article that may help if you are considering, ‘Is my relationship healthy or deciding whether to stay in the marriage?’
Get a hobby or begin searching your heart for something you like and getting involved can help beat the blues of feeling sad and lonely in a relationship.
If you’re in a relationship but lonely become social with a network of good friends.
An individual who has nice friends will not be as alone as for somebody who is constantly by themselves.
Once again, join a group where you can establish long lasting friendships.
Finally, if you are in a relationship but lonely and it is truly troubling you, then it’s a sign that you should seek professional counselling. She or he can provide you with great insights on the best ways to much better manage your dismay of being in a relationship but lonely.
The Course in Miracles teaches, “The search for truth is but the honest searching out of everything that interferes with truth.”
What to do When you are Lonely
There is nothing wrong with being alone, but sometimes what to do when you are lonely can be task. In fact the typical individual invests some time alone during their lifetime.
Remember, some people do get into a relationship for the sake of not being alone, and sooner or later they are caught up in a relationship but lonely.
But answering to what to do when you are lonely does not mean getting into a relationship with somebody simply for the sake of not being alone.
This is truly not a good idea for you or for your mate.
Getting into a relationship with someone for the sake of not being alone in life usually will wind up causing issues as the relationship continues.
(Here’s a related article on actually SEEING WHY you make life worth living and why never give up hope.)
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James Nussbaumer
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