Signs She’s Thinking about Divorce and What to Do Now to Heal

There may be many potentially serious indications that she’s thinking about divorce in the unhealthy marriage, when one or both of you quit trying to understand each other during arguments, or even in simple conflict.

If you’ve been experiencing these kinds of signals in your spouse more than just occasionally, and you’re sensing that it might be time for a divorce, you do need to do something in a right-minded sense to make optimistic changes, like soon.

Quite often, married couples who disagree and raise deep conflict on a regular basis, but have on the other hand still have a deep love for one another, can fix the broken marriage.

In an easier to understand note, I mean if you and your partner are at each other’s throat far too often, over little things, it is time to learn ways to mend or heal the problem.

If you’re seeing this symptom as well as some of the others on this list, start taking action to stop the falling apart of your love for each other and the marriage.

It may quite merely be that these are signals about your spouse thinking about divorce, and that your marriage is in trouble.

It can also be a problem of its own and lead to a marriage crisis, whether it’s caused by fading attraction or a low sex drive.

Can we Heal the Love Relationship?

Healing means learning how to stop the needless conflict in its track, and in a more helpful fashion for the both of you.

This leads me to note a few signals for you that your wife might be questioning herself: is it time for a divorce?

  • She seems to have given up on being ready and willing to lovingly untangle disagreements.

When conflicts and battles become daily occurrences, and tend to arise over almost anything, then that’s when things get a quite testy.

If you arrive just a few minutes later than you’d promised it turns into a yelling contest and winds up you both go to bed that night upset again and again throughout the week.

And that’s a big concern.

These sorts of conflicts that are happening quite regular tend to sail small arguments and further heated debate far out of reach, and do most of the time indicate that your relationship or marriage is headed in the wrong direction.

This surely means relationship healing is drastically needed.

  • Senseless conflicts seem to separate you both further.

First of all let’s be clear on something: just because your partner is exhibiting a couple of the foul behaviors that I just mentioned, doesn’t mean that they’re definitely wanting a separation or saying, I think I want a divorce.

It may simply be signals they are thinking about divorce that these are indicators rising problems up the road in your love relationship.

I know of women who have been involved in Women’s Life Confidence groups who are distant temporarily because of their own sorting out of women’s issues, and do plan to stay with the marriage.

Some women may just need some time based on that stage of their life, and that she really does not intend to show signs she wants a divorce.

So for you men, keep that in mind before over-reacting.

But if you’re seeing several sorts of these conflict and argumentative with attacking types of thoughts and gestures, as signals, in your spouse consistently week in and week out, surely it’s giving you sensations that things look pretty grim for the marriage.

If this is the case I suggest you take some action for positive change now so perhaps more situations do not get out of control.

But no matter what, a marriage with zero sex most usually is a relationship on its way to ending in divorce court.

Therefore, if your partner has no urge for sex and excuses become the way, that’s a most evident signal of a broken marriage.

It means surely that your partner is saying, I think I want a divorce.

Thinking, ‘It’s time for a Divorce.’

For certain this is an unhappy sign, and it’s something that needs attention when this has become of the troubles in the marriage.

I have seen this to be of the greater signals that a love relationship and/or marriage is moving down an unhappy avenue.

Usually, though, it’s more a symptom than a root problem, and resolving the core issues of your marriage can usually help re-build the emotional connection and lead your spouse to begin showing interest and affection again.

  • Your spouse is not around more often or always pre-occupied.

Simply put, if you’re spending less time with your wife than you have in the past or if she seems pre-occupied and distant when you are spending time together, that can be a clear sign of a spouse mindfully troublesome with the decision to end a marriage.

Sex can be symptom of other problems in your marriage–if you’re always fighting and there’s no emotional connection, the sex is going to disappear.

Yes, it’s no secret that an increase in the frequency and intensity of arguments with your partner are a clear indication that all is not well with your marriage.

Now, don’t act rash or get too excited here just because you and your spouse are fighting a few times a week.

Many married couples will disagree and have their tiny battles from time to time.

It’s actually a healthy thing to disagree and even to argue now and then, as long as they lead to resolutions instead of leave lingering hard feelings.

(This related article may help when needing unhappy marriage advice and deciding should I leave or stay.)  

  • No emotional and loving exchanges can mean a withdrawal of intimacy and affection.

If your partner is staying out late more often, and showing less interest in family and spending time together, that may be an indication that they are unhappy with the situation at home.

It may also mean that they are thinking about divorce and getting plans made for life apart, and perhaps structuring a new social life or perhaps have found some else.

Hopefully that’s not the case, and don’t prematurely accuse your spouse of this just because they’re home less often, but it is a possibility.

Is there Lack of Emotional Closeness?

The best way to tell your wife wants a divorce is if your marriage is in a doom and gloom stage.

If you’re worried that your spouse is thinking about divorce, then I’m glad I’d written this blog article for you.

But it may also be a hefty sign that that your partner is mindfully searching out the relationship if being close-hearted and distant and has stopped being interested in touching and showing love towards you.

Often with this an all-around shortage of emotional closeness and interconnection, is almost no readiness and willingness to discuss or show emotions and feelings.

Start taking action to stop the splitting apart of your relationship if you’re seeing this symptom as well as some of the others I’ve indicated.

Keep in mind the Course in Miracles states, “If all but loving thoughts has been forgotten, what remains is eternal.”

If there are signs of thinking about divorce, I urge you to view the video on this page if you’re seeing this problem escalating in your marriage.

These kinds of arguments, if they happen frequently and tend to blow small grievances or disagreements way out of proportion, can indicate that your marriage is headed in the wrong direction.

Also remember, if your partner seems to no longer care about the outcome of a fight things may root deeper.

I mean if they seem to feel as though trying to find a solution to your problems is hopeless or pointless, then that can be a clear indication of deeper troubles.

When this kind of despair sets in when thinking about divorce, your partner may withdraw further and feel as though there will never be a way for the two of you to live together in peace.

That’s obviously not a good thing, and it’s something that you need to work on if this has become a problem in your relationship and marriage.

(Here’s how to win your ex back today and find that he/she does still love you.) 

To healing the relationship,

James Nussbaumer

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