When two of my readers messaged me about how to find relationship advice for couples, and does it help, I was triggered to write this article. Does marriage guidance counselling or marital advice help heal the heart in most cases?
In my first book of the series, The Master of Everything: A Story of Mankind and the World of Illusion We Call Life, I did expand quite a bit on the reality behind relationships, and how as the Course in Miracles teaches may we see them as “holy.”
I’ve been told that the message my book sent surely was enlightening.
I contacted some closer readers and followers who’d been married a few times before, asking if they’ve ever sought after relationship advice for couples, and if it helped.
Their common answer is that it did help, but we have to realize that no relationship is perfect and neither are the two people attempting to make a go of it.
Each one involved brings their own special set of qualities to a relationship, bad and great.
Because we are all subjects of how we were raised, if your moms and dads had a great relationship, respected each other, listened to one another and didn’t battle about everything under the sun, then you were shown your entire young life ways to have a great relationship.
(Please note, and by the way, based on how deep a real relationship truly is, perhaps you’ll find this helpful, a related article that’s a review of Save the Marriage and is it for you or not?)
Communication in Relationships
Your parents provided you the tools you have to have for effective communication in relationships and a caring love relationship, and you probably didn’t even understand it.
And this is another reason why I urge my readers to learn mindfulness training, how the power of mindfulness meditation takes you through personal goal setting and achieving dreams.
Yes, breathing meditation even when contemplating relationship advice for couples.
On the other hand, if your parents didn’t have a great relationship, disrespected each other, overlooked each other and fought about anything and everything, they provided you an entire different set of tools.
If this is the case, it is understandable why you are asking, “Do I need relationship advice for couples, or marriage guidance counselling?”
Here’s another article for you to revert to on a strongly suggested way to solve marriage-trouble and begin relationship healing.
The Course in Miracles states, “You have made very real relationships even in this world. Yet you don’t recognize them because you have raised their substitutes to such predominance that, when truth calls to you, as it does constantly, you answer with a substitute.”
If you do find yourself asking concern about your love relationship being real, it means you’re asking for relationship help, and this is a favorable thought process believe it or not.
It indicates you are willing to do whatever it takes to improve yourself and wind up being a real partner in your love relationship.
Then you can both grow together and no one gets left behind, if you and your substantial other are on the same loving page.
Where do you find the info you need about relationship advice for couples and to improve a relationship? There are several places you can look.
- 1). Self-help books:
This is an excellent resource for insight on marital advice and into what it takes to have an excellent relationship. You don’t get any feedback from a book so there will be some trial and error to discover what works for your relationship and what does not.
- 2). Therapy:
A third party to listen and lend advice when the issues appear too huge to deal with on your own. You will get lots of feedback here so be prepared.
- 3). Your moms and dads:
Yes, parents can give you a wealth of details on how they managed to remain a loving couple for as long as they have.
Just remember, because of the ego aspect in us all, everyone will get in the dumps from time to time and is different and so is every situation. Here’s more on that…
Do not try to be your parents, be yourself.
Don’t get too particular, aim to talk in basic terms when involving your parents, they’re concerned about you enough.
- 4). Your better half:
Of course, yes and yes! Who else would you talk to about YOUR relationship?
You would believe this would be a no-brainer, however you would be amazed at how might individuals start to see their partner as their opponent, instead of their ally, when things aren’t going well.
But we can learn to let go of the ego involved here, and is why I wrote another article a while back about the healing power of the mind being miracles, and not magic, like ego-based thinking tries to depict.
Marital Advice
Are you insightful to ask, “Do I need relationship advice for couples?”
Also be open to attempting every single idea or suggestion provided to you to help enhance communication in relationships, letting go of what seems to be a threat especially with your love relationship.
It will certainly deserve all the effort.
The Course in Miracles teaches that, “The ego is always alert to threat, and the part of your mind which the ego was accepted is very anxious to preserve its reason, as it sees it.”
In conclusion, remember, because of the ego aspect in us all no relationship is absolutely perfect, and neither are the two individuals trying to make a go of it.
Each one involved brings their own unique set of qualities and inner conflict to a relationship, both good and not-so-good.
(Please note I also suggest a related article on how to heal the broken relationship in 2 brave yet easy action taking steps.)
To the successful love relationship,
James Nussbaumer
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